Soft BDSM in vogue - how to get started

A look at the current assortment in sex shops shows that the border between "Flower sex" and "Hardcore" can no longer be drawn as clearly as it was a few years ago. Among other things, it is the numerous articles from the category "Soft BDSM", which show how much fun it can be to slowly try things out and maybe even discover the pleasure of (more or less) strong pain.

So if you want to find out whether clamps, straps and the like are really as tempting as they seem in "50 Shades of Grey", you can approach the subject slowly.

Especially important: sex toys with individual settings

A special feature of the sex toys offered in connection with soft BDSM: they usually have individual setting options. Here, users have the chance to decide for themselves how tightly they want to be tied up or how intensively they want to be tortured.

The demand for these toys, including absolute classics such as handcuffs, shows that many gays (and of course straight men) seem to have been waiting for products of this kind.

Seldom has it seemed more legitimate than today to slowly approach the SM world and test out for yourself how far you want to go.

Films as inspiration? From "50 Shades of Grey" to "365 Days".

The hype around the soft BDSM trend was ushered in with "50 Shades of Grey". However, the developments of the last few years and months prove that this was definitely not just a "flash in the pan".

Whenever a film or series promised to provide insight into the "dark" world of BDSM, viewers jumped at it with comparative euphoria.

The most recent proof: "365 Days". The film is about a kidnapping in which the kidnapper gives his victim 365 days to fall in love with him. Shortly after the film's release, fans were already clamouring for a sequel.

Due to the impressive success of films and series on this subject, it is highly likely that many more works of this kind will be published in the coming years. BDSM fans should therefore not run out of "fodder".

What should newcomers to Soft BDSM keep in mind?

First of all, soft BDSM should not be underestimated. Even if it is - especially for hardcore BDSM fans - a significantly weakened version of the respective practices, Soft BDSM is also capable of causing pain and humiliation.

Therefore, among other things, it is important:

• Agree on a code word that shows the other person that a (pain) boundary is being crossed.
• Deciding on the right toys
• Role plays not to be ridiculed
• Not compromising just for the sake of the other person
• To be able to trust each other.

Generally, the basic rule is: the better both partners know each other, the more fulfilling the BDSM sex is.

If you are looking for inspiration, you don't have to focus on the film industry; literature related to soft BDSM often makes you want more. How about an exciting good night story after which no one can really fall asleep?

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